Pinky Promise

Please pray for me someone

2012-07-07T07:44:29.164Z

I am sinking deeper into dispair.

Grace & mercy

2012-07-07T05:27:32.192Z

Almost a week ago me & my god sister was at a store it seems like as soon as we got out the car a guy pulled up and opened fire. The guy that was getting shot at ran directly In
the direction of our car, At least 10 bullets flew our way. I just thank God because if it wasn't for his grace & mercy my family would've been burying me. That was really one of those situations I couldn't have got out of. Thank you Lord I can't say it enough.

Knowing the Person-hood of Jesus Christ

2012-07-06T23:07:21.538Z

I'm not really sure if anyone has mentioned this but, we've been having a whole mouthful about "meeting Mr. Right from Christ" and yadi yada yada. However, my question is, we all are striving to get closer to Christ right? Well, can you tell me who He is to you? How have you pressed into the presence of God? What is it like for you to be with Him?

I understand we all want to honor God in our way of living but we also should seek to get to KNOW Him. So seriously, who is He to you? What new and profound thoughts of wisdom has He bestowed on you recently that you don't mind sharing with the Pinky Promise members?

I'll go first: I believe Christ has been my provider in so many ways and facets in my life. I am pressing toward the goal: getting to know my Father more. I actually want to know Him so well that when I wake up in the morning, He's the absolute first thing on my mind and the last thing before I go to bed.

What about you? What is He to you?

*I hope this'll help more women to grow closer in Christ and seeking His face. Sometimes we all need direction and advice.

Taking Your Eyes Off People in Your Past

2012-07-06T20:01:20.346Z

Hey everyone,

I'm struggling with something and I just need some sound, godly advice. I have an ex-boyfriend who I really cared about, but we had a public, unexpected, and super duper dramatic breakup. I couldn't see it at the time, but I think that God allowed for it to be so dramatic so that there would be no chance of me going back to him. I was harboring hurt, bitterness, and unforgiveness in my heart for almost a year. If I was still with him now, I know for a fact that I wouldn't have a relationship with God...in that sense, I'm thankful for the breakup. Anyways, this past Sunday, my pastor was preaching about growing in grace, and how we should extend the same grace to others as God extends to us. I started tearing up in church because like I said, it took me a long time to forgive him, and I was regretting that I didn't extend that grace sooner than what I did. So a few nights ago, I dreamed that he was with a girlfriend and I was hurt and was almost trying to hide from him in the dream. When I woke up I felt a little dejected. Everyday I pray that God breaks the soul ties and that I would be able to see him on the street with a girlfriend and would feel absolutely nothing. No jealousy, no anger, no hurt, no bitterness...nothing. This dream kinda showed me that I'm not over him like I want to be...I thought I was, but the fact that I cried over him in church and felt sad after I had this dream says otherwise. I'm over every single last one of my ex-boyfriends except this one. I just feel like since I've forgiven him, I almost wanna go back to him...even though I never would (and my mom would totally object. lol). Maybe I'm just lonely...idk. I just wanna be over it. I'm not his friend on Facebook, I'm not following him on Twitter, I threw away everything that he ever gave me, and we go to school in different states now. Like, I've taken all the right precautions and I still feel bonded to him. What do you guys do? How do you leave the past behind and forget about him? Cuz it's been over a year now and I've been praying but I'm just kinda growing impatient.

God Loves You

2012-07-06T19:43:12.125Z

I came across an awesome blog which inspired me to share my own personal story.

"The sad truth is that even though many people today have heard that God loves them, they simply don't believe it. They just cannot understand or comprehend the reality of God's love in their lives. They can't grasp something they cannot see. They haven't learned how to recognize it and experience it and therefore they don't know how to embrace it, nurture it, grow in it, or truly enjoy it."

"We also wonder why if God loved us then why doesn't he answer our prayers immediately. But please remember that only God is able to see the total picture. We can only see a small fraction of what is happening right now." - Robert Wells

I will honestly admit it took me awhile to realize just how much God loves me. I did not come from a household where we expressed our love for one another, so in a sense I had to learn how to give and receive love. I'm sure like myself many of you have heard, or was told "God Loves You" but sometimes the challenge lies within your belief.

Do you sincerely believe God Loves you? Not because of who you are, what you did and did not do, what you have, but simply because He Loves you.

For a long time I didn't realize just how much he loved me with an unfailing Love. I saw him as a being who created me and loved me solely because he created me, but God's Love runs deeper than that. I once craved loved from everyone and everything besides God. I thought I had to prove my love to others for them to love me. I thought I had to chase love and hold onto it tightly in order to catch it. But the day I realized God Loved me sincerely in spite of my flaws and mistakes my whole life changed. I begin to see my own worth.

It was a Sunday afternoon as well as my birthday, me and mom decided we would have lunch at my favorite restaurant to celebrate after church. As we ate I noticed a girl who looked like she could have been between the age of 5-7, staring at me from the table across from me. I knew children sometimes have a tendency to stare but something about her was different. The way she stared in some way scared me. I however, decided I would just try my best to talk with my mom and ignore her staring. About 15 minutes later the little girl and her family were done eating and getting ready to exit the restaurant.

As they begin to walk towards the exit they had to pass our table. They walked past our table and the little girl still stared as she walked. Before she was out the door I was ready to express my happiness she was gone because she was scaring me, but the little girls mother turned around. The little girl's mother came to our table, and I was anxious to hear what she had to say. She begin "excuse me I'm so sorry to bother you, but my daughter has something to tell you and she says she cant leave without telling you" so I smiled and said "ok that's fine" even more anxious on what she wanted to say.

When the little girl approached the table she stared directly into my eyes with her big blue eyes and said "God loves you" with a smile and walked away.

Although I had heard this so many times it had never hit me like it did when she told me. I was speechless. It was a struggle to say "Thank you" because I was fighting back my tears. I couldn't believe God allowed someone to tell me that on my birthday. I truly felt I was in a presence of an angel. I remember repeatedly asking my mom "did she hear her, and how did she know to tell me that?" she looked too young, I did not expect that from her.

The night before I had just sinned with my than boyfriend. Birthday sex which was sent to destroy my soul. How could God love me? If my than boyfriend did not love me no one else's love did not matter at the time.I thought.

Truth be told I was in a season in my life where God was my last resort, and the last person on my mind. I was in a place in my life where I was doing everything to fulfill the desires of my flesh, and I was receiving every consequence as well. Even than he was still loving me in the midst of me falling away. I later learned how Gods discipline in my life at that time was because he loves me. In the bible it states that those who God loves, he disciplines. Deuteronomy 8:5 tells us, "So you should know in your heart that as a man chastens his son, so the Lord your God chastens you". So since our Heavenly Father wants only the best for us he is going to act like any good father does when his child misbehaves.

I was extremely stubborn and selfish at this time. I was not praying, talking to God like I should have. I was not fulfilling my vow. I was clubbing on Saturday nights and occasionally going to church on Sunday mornings when I felt guilty enough.In my own eyes I was in no way ready to receive Gods Love. I was chasing after a young man who I felt I had to prove my Love and give him my soul so he could love me when all along I already had the Love I so desired. I walked on pins and needles for this young man because I felt empty when he withheld his affection and his conditional love. Eventually he left me, broken-hearted.

But God!:)

Heartbreak as painful as it was at the time was indeed a blessing. After those sleepless nights, after soaking my pillow with tears with no one but God to run to I learned just how much God loved me and to embrace Gods Love. I can remember the nights when I cried out to God just "stop the pain, and heal my heart."

psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Even when I was faithless God was faithful.

The season where I did not even Love myself Gods Love did not fail.

So the moral of my testimony:

The Day you Realize God Loves you, you will Love yourself, you wont go searching,begging, fighting for the Love you already have. God Loves you! that is sufficient. Unlike mans conditional love:

"If a person has never known genuine unconditional love, then he/she knows the rules only for conditional love. And the foremost rule for conditional love is, "You must earn the right to be loved." You must measure up to my standards before I will love you. And of course the other horrible aspect of conditional love is that it can be taken back at any time. In other words if you do something to displease me I will stop loving you." Sadly, once upon a time I thought this was love.

But Gods love is unconditional. His love is not based on what we have, what we do, or what we achieve. God's love is not determined by our behavior or our conduct. It is not dependent on our background or our birth or status in society. God's love is not influenced by anything that we do.

Gods Love is perfect, eternal, and personal.

There is nothing that can be added to or taken away from God's love. It is complete. He cannot love you anymore than he does right now and his love for you yesterday was the same as it is today, and it will be the same tomorrow. And there is absolutely nothing that you can do to cause God to love you any less.God's love for us will never cease nor will it ever end. It is unchanging and unalterable, and it will never run out. There is no way that you can use up, exhaust, or consume God's love.

God loves each and every one of us. We are not just a number amongst millions and billions of others. He desires a personal and intimate loving relationship with you. He longs for the time when you simply talk to him, when you think about him, when you ask for his help or guidance, when you ask him to speak to your heart about some matter. His love for you is so great that you walk surrounded and bathed in his love. He wants you to know that he is concerned about every single aspect of your life.

Living proof there is nothing you can do to make him stop Loving you!!!!

Romans 8:38-39 (NLT) And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. ³⁹No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Boyfriend problems!

2012-07-06T15:56:07.025Z

My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. I thought to myself "Yes! Ive finally got a sweet christian guy to be in a relationship with! Relationships like my friends have!" Then yesterday he told me he jusst wanted to be friends because if we break up its goona ruin our friendship and he doesnt want to loose the trust he has with me. He goes to my Church so I wont see him till Sunday. I really thought God said it was okay bc I always pray about it before getting into a relationship. How do I react when i see him??? Talk to him, Dont talk to him? Help please!

Need your prayers

2012-07-06T14:30:48.298Z

The devil sees that he can not get to be so yesterday, he tried to get at my 15 year old daughter. While she was at work yesterday, a group of grown women attached her and tried to steal what she was selling which was pasta salads. The only thing the devil did was pissed me off and he is going to wish he had not done that. I am more determined than ever before to do God's work and will so that I can crush satan's head. Look out devil, psyco woman for God is on the loose.

Reunited and I hope it's good! Lol

2012-07-06T14:22:36.195Z

For the past 6years of my life my sons father has been the main man in my life. We have been threw SO MUCH! If you ever seen the movie Baby Boy that was us in a lot of ways lol. Things got so bad to where we just couldn't stand each other and we were both tired. My heart couldn't take no more of it so I broke up with him it was THE HARDEST THING TO DO! He was my everything my life wrapped up in him I had to be free and get to know me. It was hard for the both of us because we overcame so much that letting go hurt. We had to learn how to just be parents and it was hard I prayed constantly that we could at least get a long for the sake of our son. We eventually did and slowly but surely things got ALOT better. We've been seperated for almost two years and in that two years I've grown so much and so has he. I see changes in him. He goes to church faithfully and he's a AWESOME father. No matter what I did he never took his anger out on our son my son adores his daddy. Lately we've been talking and it's obvious the love is still strong. He wants to give it another chance and part of me says girl you know you love that man so go! The other part is like girl you tripping lol! I guess it's just scary because though we took each other to hell and back the love still remains just as it was the first day. It's crazy because I never thought we could reconnect like this. I am just asking for prayer for us because our past is a nightmare but I want our future to be bright. We're willing to forgive each other for the past and to me that says a lot. I know folks are going to have ALOT to say but I've honestly felt like he was the one for me a long time ago. I am just praying that things stay good& that God's will be done. Can y'all pray with me please!!

Prayer for Pinky Promise Movement

2012-07-06T08:11:41.299Z

Hello ladies so I want to ask everyone to pray for this movement/website. I love how this movement has ladies moving forward with their walk with The Lord and encouraging each other but lets not forget to pray that this movement prospers and moves on the in the right direction and in the way that God has destined for it go. I know for a fact the devil isn't too thrilled with the commitment and promise that so many have made to remain pure in all aspects of their lives and so I'm pretty sure the devil will try to sneak himself in here somehow. So let's all pray everyday for this movement! I'm sure Heather prays for Pinky Promise so let's also join her in prayers to keep this movement going strong and to bring Glory to our GOD ALMIGHTY!
May God Bless You All! :)

The Lord himself says "If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it." John 14:14

Just A Reminder...

2012-07-06T04:52:03.316Z

Hi everyone!! :)

I've really been enjoying the discussions and posts...I can relate to so many other ladies on this site! It's so encouraging to know that no matter what you're going through or what you're struggling with, God is always faithful and He's always there for us, and we're never alone--there are other people out there who are experiencing the same things.

Lately, I've seen lots of posts and discussions about relationships, waiting on our 'adams', dating, courting, getting married, and so on. These things have been on my mind lately, like wondering when is my 'adam' coming, what he'll be like, what our kids will look like, etc. I've resolved to trust God with that area of my life, and I know that He has someone for me and that He'll send him in His timing...yet I would still spend time thinking and daydreaming about meeting and courting my 'adam'.

I chatted with another Pinky Promise sister about this and she told me that this area was on her mind too. Our conversation made me realize that I, too, was putting too much emphasis on my future adam instead of focusing on God. My mom also reminded me that God has a plan for my life...and it's not just becoming someone's wife. I told her about the different discussions on here and she made me realize that we're putting too much focus on our 'adams'...that focus should be on God.

We're all realizing that God has someone for us and that we need to trust Him and wait on His timing...but now it's time to shift our focus to other things on God's agenda...we have to focus on growing and maturing and becoming better women. We need to focus on our relationships with God (most importantly). For those of us in college (or in high school), we need to focus on ourschoolwork, our majors and our future careers. For those of us who are already working in a career--we need to focus on that. We need to look for ways to encourage other people around us. There's so much that we can be doing right now instead of focusing on our adams and waiting around, wondering where he is and when he's coming. When it's time, it'll happen! But for now...let's calm down and reshift our focus. <3